Don't be fooled Marriage is work!

Key to a Successful Marriage...

Marriage is a lifelong partnership between you, your spouse and God...

Understanding is key... “Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” (Proverbs 24:3)

There is one thing to get married but it is another to remain married. Remaining in love and enjoying one another takes work, more work than many are willing to commit for more than 5years. We are forever growing and we should grow (if not there is something wrong) but that doesn't mean that our commitment has less weight. It's sad to hear many say "we are just growing apart or we don't love each other anymore". We don't just grow apart, that only happens when everything comes before our spouses and we don't spend adequate time nourishing our relationship. In all honesty what is truly being said is:' I'm too tired of dealing with this situation!". We must keep our hand in God's hand and also in our spouse hand as well… without doubt knowing we are in this together! 

We must begin to exercise our listening ability greater than our speaking ability. Most people can talk all day long but can you take the precious time to hear someone other than yourself? COMMUNICATION is KEY! Do you like being ignored??? Communication is more than just listening and it's more than just talking, it’s a combination of the two and a knowing when to do both.

We must communicate... if our brain didn't communicate with the rest of our body there will be sporadic movements, outburst and allot of symptoms of disconnection. We must have heart to heart time and conversation, this allows us to truly hear and relate to our spouses heart and concerns. This will help us seal up any cracks that were once exposed.

Where division tries to creep in that seed (thought, voice etc.) must be destroyed in its early stages... if not it grows like a cancer and just like cancer destroys vital organ, hurting other areas of your body the same occurs in your relationship with your spouse as well as your life! Anything!!! I will say it again ANYTHING that rises up against the knowledge of God must be cast down QUICKLY! The seed of discord and division can grow rapidly if left untouched and will build higher… subsequently and inadvertently causing the feeling of death in the relationship putting it into a life support comma state… leaving it in horrible need of resuscitation!

Jesus is the bread of life and his word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path (Psalms 119:105). You must stop the lies that satan wants to feed you because they will make you weaker to the leadership of the Holy Spirit and give you much gusto in your flesh. Any relationship suffers when you feed off the lies of satan. Stop anyone that wants to feed you foolishness (be it through your mother, sister, friends etc.) Anytime someone has too much access to your ear that makes them too comfortable to open their mouth concerning your spouse, your mind, your spirit and your heart.  The Word of God says: Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks… anyone that will touch your relationship with negativity does not have you at heart and does not know the word of God for them self.  Stop negativity from having access to your heart, your mind and your spirit, they are too precious to God. With love and patients did Christ draw his people; we must follow these footsteps in our relationship with our spouses as well.

Start new ways to show your spouse their feeling are important to you.

¨       Please don't make the mistake of assuming they are over reacting in any way...

¨       Don’t cut them off while they are speaking...

¨       Don’t yell while speaking…

¨       Speak very calmly and when they are done speaking  then you can respond

¨       Check your body language.

 

Major keys in marriage:

To be Valued

To be Respected

To be Loved

To be Trusted

If these are not active or slightly active...make them active everyday!

Today's Key:

Use wisdom concerning your spouse...No emotional frenzies...don't be led by emotion...don't speak out of emotion!

Read Galatians 5:16-24 Ephesians 4:1-32

Let's make marriage work!